therapy for individuals, couples & families
Maybe sometimes you feel like there’s no space to breathe or be yourself these days—trapped or constricted somehow. Or, maybe you notice that your anger like a boiling pot that could explode at any moment, and in any direction. Perhaps you feel empowered right now in your life—determined to leverage your strengths to soar even higher. Maybe you don’t know what you feel these days; or you don’t feel very much at all, and this concerns you. It’s possible you think your friends and family don’t understand what you’re going through—or maybe you don’t even understand what you’re going through. Maybe you’re stuck, and you can’t see the forest for the trees.
Wherever you’re at right now, therapy can be a supportive relationship to help you approach and navigate life’s ups and downs. I like to think of therapy as a kind of care-filled space to hold and craft whatever work (and play) you need to move towards the kind of change you seek. Think of me as a compassionate and curious traveling companion for this leg of your journey. First, we’ll take stock of where you’ve been and where you’re at. From there we can figure out what kind of therapeutic relationship can help you navigate a path forward. You’ve taken the first step. Thanks for taking care of yourself.
Our relationships are vital. I believe we all have a natural drive to learn and grow—in relationship to ourselves, to others, and to the world. This is easy to observe in young children, but as we grow up, competition for our attention and awareness increases relentlessly, which makes it easy to get overwhelmed, feel stuck, or lose balance. Think of Individual Therapy as a place where you show up for YOU—for that very being you have been gifted to live this life. We will listen closely—from right exactly where you are—to help reconnect you to your innate tendency to grow. This can help recharge your relationships and sense of well-being.
With intimate relationships, stress, tension, and conflict are natural, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. Very commonly, connections with spouses and partners feel heavy or hard to navigate. Importantly, communication is more than just words being exchanged, things get lost in transmission—and translation. Becoming fluent in these meta-languages takes some focus and some practice. In Couples Therapy, we’ll slow down communications, listening closely to what is being expressed and exchanged, so you can better understand one another. Figuring out what we want and where we’re coming from—and what our partners want and where they’re coming from—helps build empathy. In turn, this strengthens trust and intimacy and helps love to flow more easily between you. Together, you can learn to co-author and co-shape your relationship.
If you’re an adolescent or a teen, you might wonder who you’re becoming, or why adults don’t seem to get it, or how you fit in with all that’s going on in your family, at school, and with this crazy world. Maybe you’re going through a tough transition, or need to set your thinking straight, or work out how you want to be in the world. This can be hard to do with all the noise coming at you everyday. So, in Individual Therapy for Teens, we’ll open up some nonjudgmental space to talk through (and walk through) what’s going on in your life and give you get a better handle on things.
I work from humanistic, relational, and interpersonal traditions. My approach is informed by attachment, somatic, narrative, and existential ideas. Theoretical frameworks include: psychodynamic, Gestalt, and CBT. I also facilitate trauma work with EMDR.
Steve LeSieur, MA, AMFT, APCC
Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist #117767
Registered Associate Professional Clinical Counselor #7759
After growing up in NH, spending my 20’s in Florida, and much of my 30s in the Pacific Northwest, I came to Los Angeles 15 years ago to work as a sound editor in the entertainment industry. I eventually moved into the field of psychotherapy, an occupation well-suited to my ever-evolving passion and curiosity for relationships and growth. I have an extensive background in the arts, (music, dance, theater), and believe wholeheartedly in the transformational potency of creative expression. In addition to the arts, nature is an essential nutrient for me. Connecting to the natural world brings me more alive and provides a sense of vitality, ground, and balance.
I cherish relationships—with all beings, including the being that is my “self.” I engage with intentional dialogue and practices that revolve around building and sustaining connections, and I am irresistibly drawn to the ways we communicate, navigate, and negotiate them. While I do believe that I affect and influence my relationships, these days I am fascinated with how they shape me. I believe we “co-create” each other, and this bi-directional flow enlivens me.
For more specifics on experience, education, and training, click below.
During this Covid-19 pandemic, all services are conducted via telehealth, which means either video chat or over the telephone. I offer psychotherapeutic services for families, couples, and individuals of all ages and identities. If you have experienced trauma, I also offer EMDR. My fee is $150 for a 50-minute session, and I offer a sliding scale for those in financial need. Longer sessions are available and pro-rated accordingly.
In session, you might be interested in exploring one or more of the experiences and issues listed below. You also might not know exactly where to start. That’s ok. Sometimes growth happens in the most unusual ways, and in the most unpredictable places.
• heal trauma
• get unstuck
• develop resilience & empowerment
•trust your feelings
• regulate nervous system
• mindful awareness
• learn coping skills
• reconnect emotionally & socially
• awaken agency
• break patterns
• allow difficult emotions
• improve communication
• build trust
• rekindle sparks
• honor your process
• adjusting to loss
• moving through
• being with pain
• it’s natural!
• reclaim your inner spark
• creative unblocking
• express yourself
• harness right brain
• art is for everyone!
• career shaping
• work/life balance
• occupational transitions
• workplace challenges
• consensual nonmonogamy
• online identity
• understand family dynamics
• practice boundary-setting
• accepting difficult family members
• refine/define parenting
• legal & illegal drugs
• internet & devices
• set SMART goals
• identify core values
• accept what we can’t control
• practice self-compassion
How to choose a therapist who is right for you? Often we don’t know what we’re getting into until we actually get into it. To help you choose, I offer a free 15-minute consultation to see if we might be a good fit for therapy.
There is a path forward.
Anything you’d like me to know?
I practice sensitivity to issues and inquiries of race, gender, spirituality, sexuality, ethnicity, immigration status, ability, neurodiversity, and/or relationship style.
4620 Hollywood Blvd., LA, CA 90027
Aurisha Smolarski, MA, LMFT #90391